This is my soapbox post.  If  I happen to offend anyone I am sorry but this is my rant and how I feel.

M has several online forums that he regularly keeps up with.  One of these forums he has shared with me so I read it daily but mainly look at picture posts or things of that nature.  Naturally I am NOT allowed to post anything since it is his account.  But I can look 🙂

Yesterday M posted on the forum asking if anyone had planned a destination wedding, where they went and what they though.  For the most part the people who has chosen this option responded with where and and various other details.  There were a few people who posted saying that it was “dick/douche” move on our part.  That basically “it is a way to make sure you only get get the people you want.”  Of course M and I both talked about this option before we became engaged, discussed that fact that many people, friends and family, may not be able to come.  We both agreed that we would be thankful for the people who were able to come but would understand those that couldn’t.  Since ALL of M’s family, minus his parents and brother, are  located in or around London we knew that his family may not be able to come regardless of locale.  But as we began telling people our idea, everyone seems more then happy we have chosen this idea.

So here’s my rant.  Why is it that other people feel so inclined to make YOUR wedding about them?  M and I are paying for OUR wedding.  We are paying and planning for this to be OUR day.  Sound selfish?  You bet your ass it is.  I am marrying him and he is marrying me.  WE are NOT marrying our friends or family.  And while we would love for everyone we invite to come we understand that is not possible.  But who are you to judge MY/OUR special day and tell us it’s a douche thing to do?  Who are you to say that we are being selfish because you don’t get to chose the locale?  Who is really being selfish and douchey here?  Yes this option might cut down on our invite list but if the wedding were in Raleigh the list would be the same.

I don’t even think I have touched the surface of the anger I felt yesterday after reading one particular persons posts regarding this issue.  I was livid!  And I am still getting worked up as I type this.  It also annoys me to no end to continually hear people who think they are “entitled” to bring an uninvited guest, a child – or think their children should be allowed to come. (That is a completely different rant that I won’t get into.)  When did saying “I do” become about the guests?  If you are invited to our wedding (or any wedding) you should feel honored that YOU MADE the list.  Don’t give me grief that I am not catering to YOUR needs because last time I checked, this is OUR day!  So deal with it!

**Rant over!  Again, sorry if this offends but well it’s my blog and my feelings 🙂 **