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The Budgeter and the Blogger Jul 16

To say this week has been busy is a complete understatement.  When Monday morning rolled around I really thought that performing my job alone would be a breeze.  Yes, having 3 systems to manage might be an issue but 2 systems are related and I figured once I got that under control I would be good to go.  Apparently I was delusional with this thought realm and by noon on Monday I knew it was impossible!  OMG!  By Tuesday I wanted to pull my hair out and maybe kick someone, HARD!  🙂

I think yesterday was the worst day all week.  It seemed like I couldn’t get a minute free without some sort of crisis.  I woke up with a headache and it seemed to make it’s way from my forehead to my temple to the base of my neck and back around all day.  By the time I got home I was fried, literally.

However I did laugh once I got home.  My head was on the verge of nuclear meltdown when I got home last night.  M and I were sitting on the couch and I was writing my blog, trying to keep my brain between my ears, when M tells me he’s set up a budget for us.  I love M for so many things, budgets included, but yesterday I could have cared less.  He could spend all of our money at a strip club and I wouldn’t have been concerned!  My HEAD HURT!  I literally only wanted to watch and or hear things that didn’t make me think.  I couldn’t handle it.  I told M I appreciated his thought but my brain wanted nothing to do with money or budgets or actually thoughts.

I did think it was funny that while I was falling apart, he was busy putting us together.  My biggest worry with M was that he wouldn’t trust me, with money.  Been there done that, got the debt to prove it.  To me marriage isn’t just about 2 people coming together in love but coming together in love and finance and religion and politics, etc.  No I don’t think you should agree on everything but there is a balance to all.  In the beginning M wanted us to have separate accounts once married.  I didn’t agree with this but I went along with it in hopes he would see the light.  Well lucky for me he saw it early.  And more importantly, he trusts me.  How are you to love someone, wholeheartedly, if you don’t trust them with EVERYTHING?  Seriously, if you are getting married and you don’t feel you can trust your SO (significant other) with something/everything, why are you getting married?  It blows my mind, but people do it everyday.  Don’t get me wrong, if I had a fortune I would want to protect it, but in the same token, if M had one I would want to feel that I was as secure as he was, should something happen.

I think it’s funny that at the end of the day M is the budgeter and I am the blogger and it works.  🙂

Brain mush Jul 15

Another super busy day.  There was literally a point where I thought if my head didn’t explode soon, my brain was going to run out of my ears.  I spent the majority of the day trying to stop the fires my co-worker left for me.  Gotta love not know what the hell is going on.  I talked to one of our service managers probably 5 times about 3 different issues.  He called me, I called him, he called me, I called him, he called me.  It was crazy.  I even changed my AIM status so people would stop asking me about back-orders.

Then systems decided at noon, that our database was at critical red levels and if they didn’t purge immediately it could be really really bad.  This meant certain things would be down for a while.  My question, who the hell is in charge of the database?  Excuse me Mr. I run the database, Please make sure there is ample room for all our $h!t, otherwise the whole first floor might hunt you down.  I’m just saying.  IT’s YOUR JOB!!!!!!!!!!!  Just do it!

It might actually be a sad day that I have NOTHING else to talk about.  Work has done a good job of keeping me from my usual daily activities, like NOT working.  I feel like a one legged man in a butt kickin’ contest.  (There’s one for you southern people out there.)

Oh, and how is it not Friday yet?!?!?!  I woke up this morning thinking it felt like Friday.  But NOOOOOOOOO it is only Thursday.  Thank goodness I am finally home.  I might even make M make me a bath tonight in the tub without the shower doors.  😉

What a Wednesday Jul 14

OMG I have been so busy this week.  I feel like every time I start to get one thing moving something else jumps in the way.  It’s just been crazy.  Thankfully I will get to have sushi with the girls tonight for a birthday.  M doesn’t really like sushi and shell fish doesn’t seem to sit well with him so I have to take sushi when I can get it.  It is normally the girl’s night dinner of choice but with 2 pregos now, it might be more limited.

I’m not even sure what to write about because I have no train of thought or focus.  I have a couple of rants but I’ve already posted those on the knot boards so I won’t bother.  I’ll try to contain bitchzilla today.  By the way, M got a kick out of the term bitchzilla.

I guess I could post the hanger I mentioned a few days ago.  It’s not finished yet but you can get an idea of what it will look like.  This will be my dress hanger once my dress comes in.  I think I am going to paint it and I also need to remove the wooden post at the bottom and attach the wire.  Let me just say, the K was a pain!  I did a few practice runs before I finally got it to sort of look like a K.  I think the trickiest part was trying to figure out how to bend the wire upside down.   Since it is continuous, and I still had the whole roll of wire, working with the letters upside down was a little weird at first.  But it seemed like once I got started I was okay.  (I’m not even sure any of that made sense.)  I feel like my brain could run out of my ears now.

Well this has probably been a bad blog and I might not even re-read before I publish because it’s TIME TO GO!

The rise of Bitchzilla Jul 13

It looks like this week is going to suck!  My co-worker is out of town for the week and he seems to have left several loose ends that I know not hing about.  So while I am trying to stay on top of our normal orders I am also trying to put out fires he started.  UGH!!!!!

Then this morning I get an email from my mom saying that she has been looking over the info from the TA and she just doesn’t know if they can do.  “Life is just so unpredictable.”  Okay really?!?!?!  (rolling eyes)  She has not even been alone 48 hours and already the emails have started.  One day she wants to know how much the rooms with pools are, the next they are staying for a week – we need a vacation, the next she is looking for a dress for the wedding and now she just doesn’t know.  Do I sound a little perturbed?   On top of all the things going on at work, that really wasn’t an email I needed this morning.  Hence I haven’t bothered to respond.

I guess I’m just having a bad day.  I don’t mind picking up the slack or even taking the reigns, I am fine with that.  It doesn’t help that for weeks now I’ve felt like I’ve been carrying most of the load and doing all of the work.  Then yesterday I get my co-worker’s out of office email which listed me as his ASSISTANT!  NOT COOL!  At all!  I talked to my manager this morning and the situation has been fixed.  I know it was a joke but still it was very inappropriate and immature to say the least.

And I really just want a break, for 5 minutes.  Or actually just long enough to finish this post.  Can a girl please just have a lunch break?!?!?

Wow bitchzilla reared her ugly head today.  Oh well.  This is what this blog is for.  At least I can look forward to a nice cold beer when I get off.  We have a birthday party to go to after work.  YAY!

Just breathe Jul 12

And Monday has returned.  M and I had a pretty dull weekend.   We went to a wedding shower on Saturday night (not for us though).  Then yesterday my mom and dad came down.  My dad left for OK this morning so he spent the night with us last night.  Mom and I ran to the mall to look for mother of the bride dresses.  We were not successful.  We also ran out to Michael’s.  Now that I have pink flip flops I want to dress them up some.  So ended up buying ribbon and crystals.  Now if I could just find an idea to copy I might have my wedding flip flops ready.

One of my fears became reality over the weekend.  M and I knew going into booking our wedding that some people might not want to stay where we chose.  However the resort has a hefty day pass fee of $170.00 per guest per day.  Obviously M and I cannot afford to pay this fee.  This fee must also be paid to attend the wedding.  We had hoped the amount would keep most people from straying from the hotel.  Well apparently this has not deterred everyone, and someone has decided to stay elsewhere.  This is fine and they are aware of the fee that will have to be paid.  My fear is that this trend will spread and others might also think staying elsewhere could be cheaper.  I have made it very clear this fee will have to be paid by the party and that M and I will not be footing the bill for this.  While I don’t really want to dictate where people stay, I’m also not paying $170.00 a head plus reception fees.  I understand that this will be a vacation for most people and I hope that everyone will be happy with the accommodations M and I have chosen.

There will be other wedding related activities through-out the trip not including the wedding.  I am hoping to have a welcome dinner in place of a rehearsal dinner the Thursday before the wedding and maybe a breakfast brunch on Saturday morning.  Of course these are details M and I are still hammering out.  Plus some of this will be determined by the amount of rooms we end up booking.

As I keep saying it will all work out.  And I know this so I will take a deep breathe and try to let it go.  Maybe I need to hit the boards and see what is going on, since our system has  apparently crapped out.  Literally!

Sweet kisses Jul 09

First off let me say, MY PHONE IS IN TRANSIT!!!!!!!!!!!!  Yes I’m excited.  :)  It hopefully should be here with in the hour.

I’ve had cats my entire life.  I love cats.  For the most part I think we have always had 2 cats at a time.  But I must say I’ve never had a cat like Julio.  He is such a character.  Now that he and Halle are “buds”, when he isn’t chasing her around he is giving her sweet kisses, as I call them.  I think it is the cutest thing that he will walk over to her and groom her.  Never in my life have I had 2 cats like this.  Granted Hal doesn’t always appreciate his sweet kisses but it is just too cute.  I have yet to see her return the favor.  But for the better part of her almost 10 years, she will be 10 in August, she has been an only kitty.  A spoiled only kitty at that.  I really think Julio makes a nice addition to our family and even though Hal acts like he is a pain, I think secretly she enjoys the little rascal.

With that said, I found out something a little disturbing last night.  The short story is that there was some inappropriate behavior one night at a bar.  Exactly what happened, I’m not sure, I was not there.  I just know what I heard.  I will try not to judge this person as you never know what is really going on in a house.  But it’s hard not to when inappropriate behavior is displayed out in the open,  in front of others (that you know).  I think with the knottie issue yesterday plus this, it really just makes me think.  On one hand you have someone who might be struggling to make a relationship work and on the other you have someone who is putting one in jeopardy.  Now I don’t know that for sure.  I know nothing really.  This is just what I personally think.  I guess it makes me a bit mad to think that people could put their friends in situations such as this.

Anyway, this has been weighing on my mind and without going into details I felt I needed to get it out.  Well that was a fun Friday post.  Oh well.

Ending it all…. Jul 08

I’ve been pretty busy today, hence the late blog.    I found out that my coworker will be leaving at the beginning of August as he is going to teach English in China.  What a cool opportunity.    This however, leaves me wondering who will replace him.  I’ve been told I can help in the replacement process so that is good.

While browsing through the message boards today, I saw that one knottie is contemplating ending her engagement.  She didn’t go into details (and I must admit I am super curious, I’m so nosy!) but apparently there is a very large skeleton that has been hanging out in her fiance’s closet and she just found out.  I can’t imagine what it could be.  Putting myself in her shoes, I can’t imagine what M could throw at me that would make me reconsider marrying him.  I feel this is a good thing.  But then it does make you wonder what could break up an engagement?  I can understand things like cheating or addiction.  I can understand things what would affect the “now” if that makes sense.  What, in someone’s past, makes ending things a reality or an option?  Granted it is better to find out now and know that you cannot live with/accept what has happened then to find out after you are married.

I guess I am just really surprised and kind of speechless.  I just can’t imagine what I could find out.  And trust me I’ve thrown around a few things that I feel would be “shocking” but none of them really would make me want to end things with M.  I guess I am glad that I can’t think of anything I feel M would hide that would cause me to want to end things.  I would hope that any skeleton that could come out would also mean that M had grown and learned from this experience.  Maybe this event even lead to who he is now.  I can obviously only speculate as I have no idea what really happened.  I do hope that she is able to find her peace, be it, breaking off her engagement or working things out.  Either way, it is her life and she must do what is best for her.

As the old saying goes, everything happens for a reason.  Sometimes it feels like you will never understand why things happen or see “the reason”.  But I am a firm believer in this.  Everything happens as it should and we are only along for the ride.  I am very happy that my current ride has lead me to NC and M.  Somewhere way down deep I always knew I would marry a guy from the Carolinas and I really thought his name would be John!  Well who would have thunk, that is M’s middle name. 😉

Flip flops of the hot pink kind! Jul 07

I can’t believe I almost forgot the MOST important find of the weekend.  I was so caught up in the new TV and Sandals drama I completely forgot.

So M and I hit up Wal-Mart first on Saturday as part of our mission to find a TV.  Now let me say, I am not a Wal-Mart fan.  I have been bitten by the Target bug and I have vowed to stay true.  However, Wal-Mart really does have some good deals.  So much so, that M threatened to start going there more.  First off we saw a great little patio table, chairs and umbrella for $98.00.  Then we ran across the large plastic tubs and they were under $5.00, YES you read that correctly.  Under $5.00.  I almost felt the need to buy some even though we don’t really need any.  Maybe that’s the evil genius of Wal-Mart.  Make certain things so cheap you buy out of must and not need.  Who knows.  When we realized that Wal-Mart did not have a TV, it hit me…..HOT PINK FLIP FLOPS!  Right?!  If any place is going to have hot pink wedge flops this has got to be the place.  And sure enough, what was right there in plain sight in the shoes, HOT PINK WEDGE FLIP FLOPS, for $7.00!  Yep, you know I bought them.  🙂

Now I have pink flip flops and white flip flops.  What is a girl to do! My plan from the start was to find flip flops that I could jewel.  Hello 8th grade, I’m back. ;)  Yesterday as I was surfing on theknot boards (yes I’ve gone back) I found a cute pair that had ribbon wrapped around and then jewels on the ribbon.  Hello idea!  So I think that I will look for some pink ribbon to match and jewels.  I haven’t decided what color jewels I will use yet.  But I think I have a pretty good plan.  Hopefully they won’t turn out terrible. (But just in case I guess I have a backup pair ;))

I am also working on a personalized clothes hanger for my dress.  Many of the girls have tackled this project so I feel confident I can do it.  I bought some 16 gauge wire last time I was at Lowe’s so I have what I need.  Now I just need to figure out how to get a decent looking K.  It is not easy bending wire into the form of a K.  I’ve done a few practice runs and I think I am close to tackling this project.

Please note I am STILL waiting on my new phone from Verizon!  Have I mentioned patience is NOT a virtue of mine?  So I have devised an evil little plan to continue to complain on my blog in hopes someone from Verizon will see this and SHIP MY PHONE!!!!  :)  In the mean time my poor readers will have to endure these small rants.  Hopefully only for a few more days anyway.  I do apologize in advance.

Singles, smingles! Jul 06

I feel like the last few weeks have just been so busy.  I’m surprised I have any idea what is/has been going on.

So yesterday M went to play golf and I set out to try and make some headway on the bonus room.  I managed to empty a few more boxes and I finally got the guest room in order.  Sort of.  I hung pictures and accessorized.  There are still a few random things laying around, like a HUGE TV I can’t move, that need to find a home.  That will have to happen this week since my dad is coming down on Sunday.  He will spend the night so he can fly out for OK on Monday morning.  Anyway, once I decided I was done, and Julio was at the point of exhaustion – he will follow M and I everywhere and that included up and down the stairs a million times – I received an email from our TA.  We knew that we would probably have 2 guests that would not have roommates.  Well apparently this is a BIG deal at Sandals and the TA let M’s dad know that it would have to be approved by the resort manager and the room rate would be about 150% MORE then our quoted rate.  Umm, HELLO?!?  M and I were not made aware of this and didn’t seem to think it would be an issue.  I mean if 2 people want to pay for a 2 person room, who cares.  Well the TA’s response was a bit snippy and I think that put everyone in a bad mood.  She is on vacation for the week so M asked her to call us when she returns.  Hopefully this will all get worked out.

I decided to go onto the Sandals website last night and see where in their Terms and Conditions it states singles can be charged more per room.  Yes we know they are a couples resort, but when you are talking about someone’s Grandmother, come on.  After looking through the T’s & C’s I was unable to find anything about this.  Then a little “chat now” box came up.  I clicked to chat and proceeded to ask the Sandals rep where this was stated.  Of course she couldn’t tell me.  Finally she pointed me to a blanket statement regarding special requests.  I took to the knot boards this morning to see if anyone else had run into this problem.  So far no one else seems to have run into this problem.  So we will see.

I woke up at 4am this morning worrying about this.  I know we will get it all worked out but the TA’s response kind of pissed me off.  She has seemed nice to M and I so far and I’m a bit pissed she didn’t inform us of this first before responding back.  Oh well.

**Side-note**

Dear Verizon,

It has been over 3 WEEKS since I placed my order with you.  If you could please find a phone and send it my way I would really appreciate it.  Kthx!

42″ TV’s and baby pee Jul 05

Happy 4th of July!

M and I had a pretty relaxed weekend.  That had been our plan.  With all of the house stuff going on we both felt like we’ve been so busy.  So we decided that we wanted to do a whole lot of nothing over the weekend.

After Christmas M and I had planned on buying a new TV for the bedroom with the money we were thought we would get from a returned Christmas present.  However, we never got the refund check.  It’s fine I guess, I mean since my dad was out of a job I figured they might need the money more then we did but it would have been nice to know we weren’t getting anything.  So when we closed on the house I felt that a new TV was in order.  M has been SO helpful throughout the whole process and has really helped me with everything from reading contracts to moving my stuff, I felt he deserved a little something.  I told him that I appreciated all he had done and that I would buy a new TV for the bedroom, for him 😉

On Saturday we decided to run out to Briar Creek and see if we couldn’t find a TV.  We started at Wal-Mart, then went to HH Gregg and on to Best Buy since we hadn’t had much luck.  As we were looking around Best Buy I noticed a 42″ plasma that was priced incredibly well.  It was cheaper then the 32″ and 37″ LCD TV’s we’d been looking at.  He looked at it and we looked around a little more and came back to it.  M asked a clerk for the specs and then, in very un-M like fashion, looked at me and said, “we’ll take it?”  Umm, yes we will take it.  I was very surprised at his spontaneity.  With a tape measure in hand he ran out to measure the car and I went to pay.  The box was 50″ long and the back seat of the Jetta, 50”.  So it was meant to be.  Anyway, M and I now have a ridiculously large TV in the bedroom, but I can now read the guide.  🙂

A good friend of M’s just had her second baby this past week.  She sent M a text Saturday morning asking if we were coming by.  We told her we had a few errands to run but we would come by in the afternoon.  I have to say I haven’t had much experience with babies and definitely not with days old babies.  But baby Baylor was such a doll.  You forgot how light 7lbs really is.  He was such a good boy as he just slept and slept while I held him.  I finally handed him to M.  I call M the baby whisperer since they LOVE him.  Baylor continued to lay in his lap and sleep.  After a while we heard this very loud, PPPPPPPPPPWT, then another and another.  We all started laughing.  M was happy to hand him back to his mom as she came to get him.  When we looked down we realized Baylor had peed on M’s leg.  I got a HUGE kick out of this and thanked the baby for not peeing on me.  M just laughed it off, Baylor was changed and we decided we should head out since it was dinner time for all.

Once we got home, M and I set up our new TV and watched a movie in bed.  I must say, the new TV is very nice.  We both really like it.

Yesterday was spent at the pool, then after a long nap, we grilled steaks and corn and just chilled for the night.

M is playing golf today and I am slowly working on trying to clean the bonus room.  And I might take a nap, who knows 🙂